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Mother of 3, parent of 2. Reflections on the saddest sorority.

Today is my eldest son’s birthday. It is also the anniversary of his death. It is a complicated story. I had triplets and then my membranes broke at 22 1/2 weeks. My first son’s death was foretold before his first breath. A real life fairy tale curse. I knew I had no magic to break … Continue reading

An artificial womb may one day help preemies, but not for many years. Why the hype?

The news has been all over a study on premature fetal lambs being maintained in a Biobag (i.e. outside of the uterus) and growing and developing normally. This technology is specifically being developed with extremely premature infants in mind, the kind of babies who are just a week or two away from survival. Babies who … Continue reading

As an OB/GYN and parent I find the FDA’s statement on anesthesia risks offensive. Here’s why.

The Food and Drug Administration (FDA) recently issued a warning regarding the potential dangers of anesthesia in pregnancy and for young children. Specifically that “repeated or lengthy use of general anesthetic and sedation drugs during surgeries or procedures in children younger than 3 years or in pregnant women during their third trimester may affect the … Continue reading

A fetus can’t “hold hands” with its twin

The story is a sad one, a set of twins where one is not expected to survive due to complex anomalies. As the mother of a set of triplets where one did not survive I understand this kind of pain. A couple in such a situation spoke with their local news about their ultrasound which … Continue reading

If Purvi Patel delivered in hospital she could have declined neonatal care, but she delivered at home so faces jail

Purvi Patel faces 70 years in jail for delivering a premature baby at home and believing her fetus was stillborn. She was found guilty of feticide and neglect. I want to put these frightening abuses of her legal rights aside for a moment… The fact that she was questioned immediately after an anesthetic. We don’t … Continue reading

Why your baby is really hard for me

I don’t like babies. I don’t like looking at them eat, sleep, crawl or at anything they do. I realized several years ago that babies annoyed me, but I just didn’t know why (after all, I have two former babies). And then my sons and I were at their swimming class. They must have been … Continue reading

The US is still a leader in infant mortality, so where are the pro-life politicians?

The infant mortality statistics are out again. This always depresses me because: A) The rates are atrociously high and B) There is so much legislation passed to restrict abortion in the name of “life,” but politicians and judges seems awfully silent on infant mortality. In the United States 6.4 infants out of every 1,000 born … Continue reading

A friend delivered twins early. One is in the NICU, one died. What can I say or do?

This question was sent to me via Twitter. The person who added my name to the tweet knew that I might have something to offer because 10 years ago I was that friend. I entered the hospital with ruptured membranes at 22 1/2 weeks, pregnant with triplets. My son Aidan died at birth and my … Continue reading

Listeria and pregnancy, when discussing risk it’s all perspective

Emily Oster has a book coming out entitled Take Back Your Pregnancy. In preparation for the book launch, as most authors do, she wrote a nice piece in the Wall Street Journal about decision-making, risks, and how some of what OB/GYNs recommend during pregnancy isn’t always evidence based. In particular, she mentions listeria, a bacteria … Continue reading

Sydney Gunter goes to war

“Tell me about grandpa and World War 1,” I asked my dad. “Well, he didn’t talk about it much,” he replied. “He said it was hell. He was in France, for three years I think, first in the cavalry and then he was a sniper. I believe he was quite a good shot.” And so … Continue reading

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