There are apparently some men who follow the creed “No Hymen, No Diamond” believing that women who have had sex before marriage, detectable apparently by a disrupted hymen (spoiler alert it’s not!), are dirty and have feminist plans to lay waste to society as we know it. According to the NHND scholars feminism is not about equal rights or pay or education for women, it is apparently “a socialist, anti-family political movement that encourages women to leave their husbands, kill their children, practice witchcraft, destroy capitalism, and become lesbians.” Did you know that “feminism was established to allow unattractive women easier access to the mainstream?”
The posts on the Facebook page are so ludicrous and the grammar just a bit on the odd side that one wonders if this is simply a late night trolling project for some 17-year-old banned from 4chan and Reddit by his mom. For example:
Think twice before you amazing men marry a female–if she’s been around the block more times than Charlie sheen has sniffed Coke, what makes you think she’s going to stop for you? Women end up enjoying their young lives until they reach a mid life [sic] crisis then end up settling for a cuck they know won’t leave them, or simply die alone and miserably.
And then there is the Facebook profile photo that was changed after the recent flurry in the press to include various headlines, most of which are not flattering and so make a bit of an odd brag wall:
There also hasn’t been a lot of thought into the whole definition of the premarital sexual experience, after all focusing on the hymen (their posts seem vaginocentric) seems to indicate that pre marital anal sex would be okay?! Then again, applying logic to this drivel is not likely to get one anywhere.
Whether the Facebook page is performance art trolling, the alcohol-fueled bilious regurgitations of a man writing his first alimony check, or a true “group” is unknown, however, given the almost 2,000 likes on Facebook it is probably safe to say that someone somewhere is taking this seriously. In addition, there are religions and cultures that put a lot of stake in an intact hymen so it’s not exactly a new disgusting idea. Last year, Indonesian police tested female applicants for virginity and some cultures take preservation of virginity to the extreme with female genital mutilation. Over the years I have seen many women decline pelvic exams (women with medical conditions where a pelvic exam would be helpful) because of the fear that their hymen will be disrupted and that is a tragedy. If a woman wants to refrain from sex until marriage that is her choice and I respect that, but she shouldn’t have to prove that to anyone. She knows if she has had sex or not and so when women fear they could disrupt their hymens during a necessary medical exam it means her word and the way she has lived her life means less than a few millimeters of tissue that can’t really tell you anything accurate.
I always wonder how these men so obsessed with intact hymens would really know if a hymen were intact? It’s not like gynecologists in North America give certified fresh certificates (and any doctor in any country who does is in my opinion unethical for subjecting women to an unnecessary and inaccurate test). If these NHND guys are as pure as the women they seek they wouldn’t know anatomy. If they have sex but only have sex with virgins they wouldn’t know otherwise. Perhaps they think they think they can tell if penetration is painful? Well, if they remotely resemble any of their Facebook posts I’m pretty sure foreplay for these hymen-obsessed dudes involves twist a nipple and stick it in, so sex is likely to be a painful and tragic 7 stroke 22 second affair anyway.
If the Facebook page is trolling for attention it’s bad because someone will think it’s real. If it’s real then it’s a vile little corner of the internet where misogynists get to spew hateful ideas that belong in a dystopian novel. Apparently once a woman is out of the kitchen it’s only a matter before she runs off to buy a cauldron and snack on children while conspiring to bring down Wall Street. If three millimeters of tissue is that powerful then maybe maybe we should be building weapons from hymens.
The only good that can come of this Facebook page is now women everywhere have a 100% guaranteed way of detecting a man they definitely don’t want to know, never mind marry. On the first date show him a post from the No Hymen, No Diamond movement and if he says “That’s cool,” or was fool enough to like it on Facebook then run as fast as you can. There is almost always a coven over the next hill.