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A dispatch from Texas, the front line of the war against women

Texas state motto: friendship

She knew she was supposed to be careful about getting pregnant, although truthfully she didn’t think it could happen because of her blood pressure and kidney problems. The nurses at the county clinic started her on the pill, but her blood pressure went all crazy. They asked her to come back on a Wednesday night when the doctor was there. The doctor asked lots of questions and spent a lot of time with her. It was nice to see a doctor care so much.

The Wednesday night clinic was where the nurses sent you when they needed the doctor’s help. It took two buses to get to that clinic and she had to wait an hour after it closed for her boyfriend to get off of work so he could pick her up, but she went because the nurses were so insistent.

The doctor (so young, she looked right out of medical school) asked her to stop the pill, something about the estrogen. The doctor tried to talk her into an IUD. Said it was the safest thing. But it sounded scary and some ladies at church said it caused abortion, so she wasn’t so sure about that.

Eventually she agreed to the Depo-Provera shot. Made her bleed all over the place for a while, but after a couple of shots she stopped getting her period altogether so that was okay.

Her boyfriend got a job in a new city, so they moved. She didn’t have a car, and even if she did she couldn’t afford the gas money to go back to the county clinic where she used to get her Depo shot. The nurses there were very nice and she was sure they would have looked the other way seeing she now lived in a different county. But they told her about Planned Parenthood. She could get her Depo there. She was so excited when she realized it was only six blocks from her apartment.

When she called to make an appointment for her Pap and Depo she was told Planned Parenthood couldn’t accept her Medicaid. Wasn’t allowed to accept Medicaid. Some law. “But I don’t want an abortion,” she said.

“Doesn’t matter,’ the receptionist said. “The government of Texas refuses to let any state tax dollars go to Planned Parenthood. You’ll have to pay for the visit and your Depo, but we do have a way to reduce the price for you.”

Even then it was a lot of money. More than she had right now. She called several doctors, but no one accepted Medicaid. “Doesn’t pay enough to cover our expenses,” they said.

And then one thing sort of led to another. She got a job at the Wal-Mart, but only part-time, so no health benefits. She needed the money to pay for her blood pressure pill. And food. Her boyfriend’s job wasn’t as many hours as they’d hoped. She bought condoms when she had the money, but stopped after a while. Deep down she had always thought she couldn’t get pregnant. The doctor at the county clinic told her not to count on it. The doctor said she had delivered many women who never believed they could get pregnant.

The sound of the doctors at her door brought her back to the here and now. She went to the emergency room the night before with the worst headache she had ever had. The look on the emergency doctor’s face when he saw her blood pressure was almost comical. And the swelling, he’d wanted to know how long it had been that bad.

He told her she was probably six months along. That she had something called preeclampsia. Her kidneys couldn’t handle the stress of being pregnant. When they got her to labor and delivery the OB said she needed to have the baby. As soon as possible. It didn’t matter that she was so early. She could have a stroke and her kidneys might fail. They told her that her baby had a 60-70% chance of surviving.

Her headache was a little better. The medication to bring down her blood pressure helped. The contractions hurt, but they weren’t that bad. She listened closely to the doctors at the door. They were talking about her ultrasound. She thought the lady who was doing the scan had taken a long time. She’d even called someone over to look at the screen. Something about not enough fluid so it was hard to see.

Only one doctor came in. A lady. She walked like she was in charge. She pulled up a chair. Her face looked a lot softer up close. “Your ultrasound has some findings and I need to talk with you about them. We know the fluid is low. We knew that from the initial scan we did last night. We talked about that this morning. But this latest ultrasound is more detailed and gives us more information. Your baby is smaller than expected. That could be from your blood pressure, but there is something else. Some problems with the bones in the skull. You were taking a blood pressure medication and it looks as if there are some birth defects.” The doctor paused.

“What does that mean for my baby?” She thought it sounded odd to say those words, my baby, out loud. A baby she didn’t even know she was carrying until yesterday. A baby she thought she could never have.

And that’s when she started to cry.

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9 thoughts on “A dispatch from Texas, the front line of the war against women

  1. Such a sad and important story. So many, especially those we elect in Washington, are making decisions about women, healthcare, and values without any understanding of what is actually going on. This story should be required reading.

    Posted by Jason Evan Mihalko, Psy.D | February 26, 2012, 12:40 pm
  2. I have high blood pressure (among other health concerns) and have since I was 18. I have also never wanted children. However, because I don’t meet their “eligibility” requirements, I cannot find a doctor who will sterilize me. Two attempts to insert an IUD were unsuccessful and traumatic. I became pregnant while using condoms, then ended up paying $750 for an abortion at a private clinic (PPH wouldn’t take me because of my blood pressure) and because my blood pressure was so high they couldn’t perform the procedure until it was under control and by then it was the second trimester. If I had continued with the pregnancy I risked further blood pressure problems, kidney damage, and damage to the fetus so I would need to go to a high risk pregnancy specialist which I couldn’t afford, even with the insurance I had. The doctor said he suspected that my blood pressure went even higher because of the pregnancy, but when I said I didn’t want to have children he still tried to convince me that what I needed was an IUD or Depo because I might change my mind one day. I have tried Depo and had terrible migraines the whole time.

    Because doctors and politicians are so convinced that women don’t have any idea what’s going on with their bodies and deep down they all want to procreate, they have made reproductive care prohibitive in so many ways. If the doctors I had talked to for the past five years had listened to me and believed that I knew enough about my own mind and body to know that I wanted to be sterilized, I wouldn’t have had to spend the time off work and all my savings to terminate a pregnancy I couldn’t sustain even if I had the desire.

    I feel for the woman in your article and it breaks my heart to think of what she went through, and chills me to know that I could have been in her place so easily.

    Posted by NJS | February 26, 2012, 12:59 pm
    • He probably wouldn’t sterilize you because of your age, as they are afraid that later you will change your mind and sue. I have heard that a number of times from women.

      I don’t know if it right but I can understand the doctor’s fear.

      I’m sorry for your pain and trouble though.

      Posted by Shellireads | March 16, 2012, 9:16 pm
  3. Thank you for sharing this story. This is a perspective that must be heard so people can understand what is at stake in women’s rights. Not all women have equal access to care or money for contraception.

    And a note to those who say she shouldn’t have opened her legs if she didn’t have contraception: does being poor now mean you can’t even enjoy sex?

    Posted by Leah | February 26, 2012, 1:26 pm
  4. I wonder why more emphasis is not place on men using condoms for birth control. No side effects there. All female forms of birth control from pill to IUD to Depo have potential side effects. Come on men, step up to the plate.

    Posted by teamrns | February 26, 2012, 10:14 pm
    • Perhaps I’m cynical, but that would require men to put forth some effort. Plus, it affects men. Since pregnancy is a condition that only affects women, men really don’t have an incentive (other than the social ones) of preventing pregnancy. Women do have that incentive, ergo, more of the contraceptive burden lands on women.

      Furthermore, condoms are a fairly expensive form of birth control, depending on how often you have sex. They’re also prone to failure if not used correctly. I’ve been teaching college biology classes the past few years, and part of our curriculum is a short unit on sexual education. We teach students how to correctly use a condom. You wouldn’t believe how many people don’t know how to use a condom appropriately; I was shocked when I realized my students really didn’t know all the steps. The main hang-ups are in condom storage and in removal. With removal, it is essentially that someone hang on to the rim of the condom as it is being pulled out so that no sperm is spilled into the woman.

      The ideal is to use multiple forms of birth control (say, the pill and the condom), but that is also a bit of an expensive luxury.

      Posted by Leah | February 27, 2012, 6:37 pm
      • Is learning to use a condom correctly such a hard skill for a young man to master? Classes like the ones you teach should be mandatory; men should take a little responsibility here and women should take the same responsibility that the the men they have sex with know how to use a condom. “No condom knowledge, no sex.”

        I know hormones are raging in this age group, but if the kids are TAUGHT, really TAUGHT and imbued with a sense of responsibility and that casual sex DOES have it’s consequences, I’m sure we’d see the unwanted pregnancy rate drop and the request for your services when a botched abortion drop. I know condoms aren’t 100% fool proof, but parents are the enablers of teenage pregnancies and people who encourage daughters to get IUDs, and BCP and Depo have not been made aware of the potentIal side effects; side effects of condoms?

        Posted by Annie | February 28, 2012, 1:06 pm
  5. Thank you. Your posts always reduce me almost to tears.

    Posted by Labrys | February 27, 2012, 8:38 am
  6. Lovely Jen. Thanks.

    Posted by Jen Teal | February 27, 2012, 10:18 am

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