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Coconut oil: a natural lube

Many couples need/prefer lube during sex. However, many commercial lubricants can be irritating (or just aren’t quite right). Ingredients that many women find irritating are alcohol (most gel based lubricants) and glycerin and paraben (most water based lubes), never mind the stuff they add for smell and taste.

A great option for those who find commercial lubes irritating or are troubled by the fact than many of the ingredients remain unpronounceable to everyone but organic chemists is coconut oil. Yes, the stuff you use for cooking. You can buy it at most drug stores and at Safeway prices of $9 for a massive jar it is also a lot cheaper than that tiny little bottle of Slippery Stuff.

Coconut oil is a solid at room temperature, but as soon as you glop 
a bit on your hands it starts to melt. If you rub a bit quickly in your hands for a few seconds you immediately have a liquid.

Oil based lubricants provide a lot of staying power (they cling well to the tissues), so reapplication in all but the most, uh, robust sessions is generally not needed (although, not that it matters, if you need/prefer more lube, so be it!). Also, because the oil provides a thicker coating than silicone, water, or gel based lubricants it is often preferred by post menopausal women who are not using estrogen or women with increased vulvovaginal sensitivities (such as women with vulvodynia, a vulvar pain syndrome).

You can also use Crisco, but fully hydrogenated oils for sex sounds, uh, well, unsexy. And I am still unconvinced that they are a good idea health wise. Olive oil is also an option, but in general my patients seem to prefer coconut oil. It seems to be a hands down winner in the taste, texture, and aroma departments.

The only down side with coconut oil is that you can’t use it with latex condoms because oil degrades latex.

The other upside of coconut oil is that it works a great moisturizer for dry skin!

What do you think, would you try coconut oil?


123 thoughts on “Coconut oil: a natural lube

  1. Reblogged this on clearance champange and deep fried love handles and commented:
    I am so getting into stuff like this! Kind of obsessed with coconut oil now haha.

    Posted by megaliciousmilleroony | July 18, 2014, 8:33 am
  2. it is so wonderful and awesome lubricant !

    Posted by Treesa | July 21, 2014, 7:36 am
  3. Coconut Oil is an amazing natural lubricant! It’s super hydrating and slick and really improves my sex life!

    Posted by Georgina | August 11, 2014, 5:42 am
  4. Coconut oil has no dangerous side effects. It’s natural and non-toxic. When heated for cooking purposes, coconut oil doesn’t produce harmful byproducts like other vegetable oils.

    Posted by coconut oil lube | August 12, 2014, 9:05 pm
  5. i already use coconut oil, it’s fab! as a person with a vagina, i appreciate a good lubricant.

    Posted by ollie | September 1, 2014, 12:08 am
  6. We use a Jello jelly bean mold and pour the melted coconut oil into it. After refrigerating the mold, we have these nice little beans of coconut oil that are hardened. When my wife is ready, we insert one or two of the beans and the body heat melts them quickly, providing more and more lubrication as we go. We have also noticed that cleanup of out personal liquids is much easier because it provides a layer that keeps things from sticking. It also leaves our skin very soft and supple down there. She has, on occasion, has issues in the past with yeast infections afterwards, but since using the coconut oil, she has not had any more outbreaks.

    Posted by dadof5 | September 10, 2014, 9:10 am
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    Posted by robramdsomjob | December 12, 2014, 7:34 pm
  8. I like to use Tropical Traditions extra virgin organic coconut oil…and sometimes I will mix in a little bit of Harlequin resin and dissolve it right into the oil…makes it wonderful to have sex with…My cannabis infused coconut oil = Best sex ever…

    Posted by Karl Miller | April 4, 2015, 12:56 pm
  9. Fantastic article- just what I was hoping to find. I’m going to be 60 soon and am a widower of 3 years. I’ve just started dating again and found a precious soul. I’m a health- food conscious person with High sexual energy. Thank you for writing such a great article- love the excerp under title 🙂

    Posted by Barbara | October 9, 2015, 11:34 pm
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    Posted by Casual Love | December 5, 2015, 11:21 am
  11. It is very good for anal sex.

    Posted by Maria | December 21, 2015, 12:38 am
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    Posted by Isabelle | January 8, 2016, 1:15 pm
  13. My wife is post menopausal, and we have been using coconut oil for the last year or so. It is fantastic, and we will never go back to anything else. We also use is as a general massage oil. Can’t say enough positive things about coconut oil…

    Posted by Olorin | April 3, 2016, 3:03 am
  14. My husband and I really like the coconut oil for lube the best. I’m 51 and have vaginal dryness I am able to have orgasim with his hand agian and he has ED great stimulated for him with my hand, we both agree it feels natural
    And doesn’t interfere with making love after all the fourplay. Feel it saved are sexlife !!!!!!

    Posted by Tina | April 15, 2016, 5:05 am
  15. I should try it since i had bought some recently to try oil pulling for my mouth

    Posted by CW | June 5, 2016, 5:09 pm
  16. Am going to try it because am tired of all the pain,and its natural too.

    Posted by Tresia knowles | June 16, 2016, 12:21 am
  17. Dude I love coconut oil for analyzing and vaginal sex. Been a life saver =)

    Posted by orgna13 | July 4, 2016, 11:45 am
  18. This is a fun post…coconut oil is great! I get it in a can and spray it all over for skin treatments, slip and slide massages, etc.

    Posted by HappyCookies | July 7, 2016, 8:33 am
  19. You have brought up a very fantastic points , appreciate it for the post.

    Posted by Johnie Clemenza | August 23, 2016, 12:02 am


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